14 Things to Get Rid of If you Want to be Happy

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If you were given a magical trash can today and told that if you threw away 10 stress causing things that you would experience true happiness, what you do? What would you be willing to toss? Too many of us hold onto things that only cause us pain. Why? There are numerous answers to that question but some of us hold onto things because we were taught to do so, or perhaps we have our identity tightly wrapped up in that painful thing and if we let go of it, what would we be? Still others feel a sense of control and still more are afraid of what might happen.

It’s time to release these things and make room for the happiness you deserve. Take a look at the top 14 things most people simply can’t seem to let go of.


1. Control

You might be shaking your head right now and thinking “ I’m not a control freak.” The truth is, however, almost everyone is to one extent or another. This isn’t always a bad thing. Paying your bills on time gives people a sense of control. However, feeling responsible for everything and everyone around you is not a healthy feeling of control. This might be shocking for you to hear but the truth is that the world does not revolve around you. Helping and supporting others is a wonderful thing but if it’s beginning to cause you stress then you need to let it go. Trust that there is a greater force helping them and that they will be supported just as you are supported by that greater life force.


2. Forget about being perfect

You need to toss out those words “perfect” and “good”. It’s OK to mess up sometimes. It’s OK to not have it all together. It’s OK to sometimes go a little crazy. It happens to everyone and it’s not the end of the world.


3. Get rid of the need to please everyone

You can’t possibly please everyone anyway, so why try?


4. You don’t need to explain yourself

Feel free to say NO anytime you wish. If something doesn’t feel right, if there is something you don’t want to do, someplace you don’t want to go, just say NO. You don’t have to explain to anyone why you can’t or won’t or don’t want to do anything.


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5. You don’t have to reply to everything

Are emails, text messages, and phone calls taking over your life? Listen; there is no law that says you must be available 24/7 or that you must answer every communication in minutes. Answer when it suits you. No one ever died because their text message about Friday night’s plans didn’t get answered until the next day.



6. Throw out beliefs that don’t work for you

If someone always told you as a child that you sucked at sports, you most likely believed them and repeat that mantra to this very day. “Oh, thanks for inviting me to the company baseball team but I suck at sports.” Sound familiar? Whether it was sports or organizing or fixing cars or cutting hair, it doesn’t matter. Throw out all those beliefs that limit who you are and what you can do.

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