10 Types Of People You Don’t Need In Your Life! (Especially #10!)

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Everyone has people in their lives that affect them in a negative way. Of course, we can’t always choose our relatives or co-workers, but we can find ways to deal with them or to limit our contact. In fact, when it comes to relatives, if they fit any of the 10 categories we are going to list below, perhaps you are better off simply leaving your visits to once per year.

It boils down to so much more than just “tolerating” someone. You “tolerate” your cousin who makes apple pies every holiday that don’t taste all that great because she means well. You learn to “tolerate” your friend’s husband who always insists that your kids “pull his finger” at every single party, because he’s just trying to be funny and it doesn’t hurt anyone.

However, you don’t have to learn to tolerate negative people who affect your life in numerous ways, some of them in truly terrible ways. The people you spend your valuable time on matter! You should surround yourself with people who make you feel good, those who lift you higher, and those who see the wonderful you… even when you don’t feel so wonderful.

We have narrowed down the list of negative people to 10 of the worst culprits that you should kick out of your life if at all possible. Recognize any of these? Bet you know at least a few all too well!

 

1. The Bad Influence

This is the person that brings out the worst in you. You know, you decide to go shopping at one of the outlet malls so you can buy birthday or Christmas presents. You take along the Bad Influence, who not only convinces you that you should NOT spend that much money on your cheap-skate husband, but that you should buy your mother in law the ugliest purse EVER because she’s such a witch, and let’s not forget that you have worked so hard this past year that you deserve a very expensive bag that you really can’t afford but you buy to impress the Bad Influence. Of course, most Bad Influence friends cause much more damage than this, but you will recognize this person immediately. If you are doing things you ONLY do when they are around, you should ditch this person like the bad habit that they are.

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2. The Sad Sack

This person feeds off of your energy and zaps every positive feeling you have about life. The Sad Sack increases the negativity in your life by telling you every bad aspect about your life that you never even thought of! By the time this friend leaves, they have you believing that your life sucks even when you thought everything was going great before they showed up. These are energy vampires so if you have any of these Sad Sacks in your life, ditch them ASAP.

 

3. The Schemer

Remember in the old I Love Lucy episodes how Lucy would always convince her friend Ethyl to get involved in some hair brain scheme that always ended badly? The Schemer is like Lucy, but she doesn’t care if you get hurt or if you are bored. She doesn’t care anything about you — really, she just wants a sidekick to take the fall for them when things go wrong! It wasn’t their fault that they got drunk Saturday night and wrecked the car, it was YOUR fault because you kept paying for drinks and you let her drive! Save yourself a ton of headaches, excuses, and pain. Let the Schemer take the fall for her own crazy plans.

 

4. The Dufus

Although all your friends don’t have to be on the Mensa list to qualify as a friend, they shouldn’t be stupid on purpose! The Dufus indulges in voluntary ignorance, has an immense ego, and a self-righteous attitude that will absolutely drive you nuts! Stop the crazy making in its tracks. The next time Dufus decides that playing stupid is the best way out their problems because they are smarter than everyone else, drop them on their butt. Hard.

 

5. Your 5,000 Facebook Friends

These people are not your REAL friends. You don’t even know if the name they are using is their real name or if they life where they say they live. In fact, you don’t know anything about these people other than what they tell you. They aren’t interested in your problems (unless it provides them with good gossip) they won’t help you when you really need it, they just want you to post cool meme’s. Limit your Facebook friend list to REAL friends that you can count on.

 

6. The Bragger

Sometimes called “The Know It All”, these people are forever trying to one up you so they can feel better about their lives. If you go to Las Vegas for your vacation, they will tell you that Vegas is SO 1999 and that Paris is the place to go, they are leaving next month or they went last year. If you tell them your kid made the honor list, their kid is graduating early. If your husband gets a raise, their husband got a promotion and an even bigger raise. It’s endless, it’s pointless, and you don’t need it. Tell the Bragger to take their new Mercedes and get lost.

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7. The Leech

This person will suck you in so fast, you won’t even know what happened. The Leech is always broke or is always missing something. They ask so nicely if they could borrow X from you just this once, they often promise to pay you back or buy you one next time, but they never do. They NEVER have anything they need, and they just know YOU will provide them with it. And you DO because you are a nice person. The Leech is not. If you constantly find yourself giving this person a cigarette, some sunscreen, $5 for Starbucks, buying them lunch, buying them drinks after work, etc., then you know you have picked up a Leech. The good thing about Leeches is that they are easy to get rid of. Simply start saying no. You don’t have any more gum, you only have $2 for the day and you left your debit card at home, and sorry, you brought your lunch today. Once the Leech figures out his funds have dried up, he will move on to another sucker.

 

8. The Old Friend

Old friends are great for talking about the past and remembering good times but some Old Friends are only interested in talking about old times and doing things the old way or remembering the way things used to be. They are so entrenched in the past that they actually prevent you from moving forward with your life. Old Friends talk about the past so much that it actually depresses you. They may be sweet, but they are doing you mental harm. Cut them out of your life or limit yourself to one or two visits each year.

 

9. The Gossip

Although gossip can be interesting and sometimes even provide you with vital information at times, but when you have a friend who really only talks to you to obtain more fuel for the gossip fires or who spreads the worst kind of unsubstantiated, unreliable gossip about everyone she knows, this person needs to go. The Gossip keeps you away from real friends as no one is willing to share personal information that might be given to her and she keeps you from feeling good about yourself. After all, if Mrs. Jones is getting paid twice as much as you for doing the same job, perhaps you aren’t as good at your job as she is. You don’t need this person in your life. Tell her you are too busy to talk but you will call her later and then don’t.

 

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10. The Narcissist

This is, by far, the most damaging person in your life. The Narcissist is never wrong. They will completely convince you that everything is your fault. They are never, ever there for you, but will make you feel terrible if you are not there for them. They will often lie right to your face and then convince you that you must be crazy if you insist that they said something else. They will tell you that you are crazy and the worst part? You believe them because they are such charming liars! Narcissists are always the victim, they are totally blind to your accomplishments but they demand recognition for the smallest accomplishment. They will manipulate and control you and pretend that they care about you but the truth is; a Narcissist only cares about themselves. If you find yourself questioning your sanity with just this one friend, you can almost guarantee that this person is a Narcissist. Run — do not walk — away from this person and never, ever take another phone call from them again!

References:

http://www.ucsf.edu

https://www.psychologytoday.com

http://epm.sagepub.com