Seldom-Taught But Essential Social Skills

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How to Quit

“No one likes a quitter”. Those words are drilled into your head since childhood. Most of us are taught that if we make a commitment, we need to stick with it. Why? Because we made a commitment, that’s why. To do otherwise would show weak character.

But is this really necessary? Does it really apply to ALL situations?

No one is saying you should just nonchalantly duck out of a commitment like a marriage, a job, or dinner with family you rarely see, but what about lesser commitments like piano practice, tennis or some activity you’ve lost interest in? Do you really have to keep doing it? Is sticking with that commitment really taking you closer to where you want to be in life?

Maybe you’re following a particular strategy for achieving a goal or completing a project. If it’s not working, or there is a more efficient way to do it, what should you do? The answer is going to be highly dependent on the situation, but generally speaking you shouldn’t just stubbornly stick with a plan when there is a better option available.

This goes contrary to how many of us are taught to think, but it could be just the solution you need to solve your problems and reduce the number of things stressing you out in your life.

 

Learn How to Accept and Appreciate Things The Way They Are

Many of us are taught to be very goal oriented and always strive for something. Make more money. Set a goal, and go after it. Do this, do that. This is not necessarily a bad thing. Achieving things is good, and boosts one’s self-esteem.

But sometimes there can be a lot of satisfaction and pleasure in just taking things in, and appreciating things as they are. When we spend our lives always working toward some future goal, or dwelling on the past, we never really experience the present. We become just like the people in the Dalai Lama’s famous quote:

“Man surprised me most about humanity. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.”

 

READ ALSO: Top Warning Signs You Need to Change Your Life

 

It isn’t always necessary to be striving for something. Take some time to appreciate what you already have and your life the way it is, and you may experience a satisfaction some people never know.

References:

www.explorersfoundation.org

www.smartrecovery.org

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