Top Warning Signs You Need to Change Your Life

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Most people find that they need some sort of catalyst or traumatic event to occur in their lives before they wake up and smell the coffee, so to speak. Unfortunately, too many of us live with unhappy or even detrimental situations until something terrible or eye opening happens. Then they go through some traumatic changes and ask “Why didn’t I do this before?’

One of the keys in understanding what is going on in our lives is recognizing how we feel. This sounds so easy, but try asking someone how they feel about something. They might tell you what they think (Oh, I think this is terrible!) but when you ask them how they FEEL about a situation, they will give the deer in the headlight look and stammer “Feel? How do I feel about it? I feel..well, I guess I feel….” They rarely know how they feel; they only know what they think.

This is because we aren’t taught to recognize feelings, only actions. If we could recognize how we feel about certain situations or people, life would be easier.

Take a look at the top 10 signs that you need to make a change in your life, whether you recognize it or not.

1. You DREAD Going to Work Most Days

Although not every day at work is sunshine and roses, but since we spend so much time at work, how we feel about it is a very important in our lives. If you find that you wake up in the morning, or if you go to bed Sunday night and absolutely DREAD going into work, it’s time to wake up and smell the coffee. Don’t live your life in dread. Find a new job.

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2. All You Hear is “Relax”

Are friends and family constantly telling you to “relax”? Or maybe “settle down”? when people tell you that you need to relax, what they usually mean is that you are either working too hard or that you need to “get over it” already. Listen to what your friends are saying. If you can’t figure it out, be direct. Ask them what they mean. If they are truly your friends, they will tell you.

3. You are Never Thinking about the Present

If you find yourself either daydreaming about happy times in the past, or if you spend most of your time planning for a happier future, chances are that you aren’t happy in the here and now. Although making plans and dreams for a better life is normal, when all you are doing is dreaming and not doing, this is a sign that you need to make changes in your right now.

4. You Feel Jealous Often

When we feel jealous, it’s because we are unhappy with where we are in our lives and we wish we had/did what the other person has or did. This has nothing to do with the other person, but it says a great deal about ourselves. It is impossible to feel happy for someone else’s success when we feel that our life sucks. When you feel jealous, ask yourself what is the real problem.

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5. You Always Wake Up Tired

If you are otherwise healthy and you get 7 to 9 hours of sleep, but you still wake up tired, the problem probably isn’t work but with your life in general. Waking up tired is a sign of depression. Being tired all the time can mean that your life is filled with strife and/or struggles. When we are constantly tired it means we are about to just give up because we are too tired to fight the problem any longer. You should be happy and excited to be alive. If you aren’t you need to take a hard look at your life.

6. You Are Restless

The opposite of those who feel constantly tired are those who can’t sit still. When you feel restless, this is a sure sign that your creativity is being stuffed in the closet. If you can’t sit still, if you feel that you must be doing something, it is your job to figure out what that is and then, do it!

7. You Spread Gossip

You might think gossip is just a fun pastime, but the truth is that gossip is a means of deflecting the work that we should be doing in our own lives to someone else. At its best, gossip is avoidance. The next time you are dying to call a friend and pass on that juicy tidbit of gossip, ask yourself what you are trying to avoid.

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8. Everyone Bugs You

If you find that you can’t stand anyone and that you nitpick and find fault with everyone and everything, this is a sure sign that you have some deep, underlying problems you have not dealt with. Everyone is annoying because you have something in your own life that you can’t face and you don’t know how to change.

9. You Join the Doom and Gloom Club

Waiting and predicting and believing that something bad will happen will have only one result: something bad will surely happen. It’s like scientists who predict a big earthquake. They say this year after year until, whether it’s 10 years or 25 years later, guess what? There is an earthquake! Then they run around screaming “We told you so!” The fact is that earthquakes will happen with or without your prediction. Stop thinking about all the bad things that can happen and think about all the good things that can happen. The amount of work is the same.

10. Is That All There Is?

If you find yourself frequently thinking “Is this all there is?” or “There must be more to life than this!” you can bet that you are imagining that there are bigger, better opportunities on the horizon. Be open to change and follow those feelings of passion. They often lead to the perfect place that you have needed for a long time.

Keep in mind that deciding to make changes can take an instant, but actual change does not always happen as fast as we would like it to. Don’t let that stop you from change. Keep moving forward! Even small steps will help you to reduce those negative thoughts and feelings.

References:

www.helpguide.org

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One Comment

Toronto Life Coach Giovanni Ma

Aug 30, 2016 at 8:29 pm

To Whom It May Concern,

I was searching for some articles about depression today and I came across your page.

I noticed that you linked to one of my favourite articles: http://www.helpguide.org/articles/depression/depression-signs-and-symptoms.htm

Just wanted to give you a heads up that I just wrote a similar one. It’s like the article on helpguide.org, but more thorough and up to date: https://inspireyourselflc.org/depression-signs-symptoms-causes-test-treatment/

Might be worth a mention on your page.

Either way, keep up the great work!